Boob jobs: It’s not for him it’s for me
Posted on 13. Dec, 2011 by CSG in Cosmetic Imperfections
According to a recent article for The Huffington Post, women only have breast enlargement surgery to “increase their hotness among straight guys”. Melissa Carter claims “guys dig a good rack” and thinks straight women will do all they can to impress them.
Quite frankly, it’s absurd to think every female who goes under the knife is desperate to please a disgruntled man. Many strong, independent women opt for cosmetic surgery to fix their insecurities and are poked, prodded and tweaked to improve self-confidence. They use their own minds to make their own decisions and check in for procedures on their own terms.
There’s something fundamentally wrong with the belief that we’re out to satisfy someone else. All the magazines tell us, he won’t notice that bit of cellulite or those few extra pounds, but what if we notice them and want to fix them? Is it so hard to believe that women choose plastic surgery for their own enjoyment?
Many women dislike their bodies after pregnancy and choose plastic surgery to enhance their looks – not to satisfy a man, but to improve their appearance. What harm is a nip here and a tuck there if it makes someone feel more confident? Plastic surgery isn’t just about getting a good pair for the boys; it’s about liking the person you are.
In her article Boob Jobs: Could Lesbians Teach the Rest of Us, Carter also states that “the vast majority” of women concoct elaborate tales to disguise their true motivation for surgery stating “never once have I heard a woman come right out and admit to going under the knife for a man”. It’s just a thought, but perhaps women don’t admit to this because it’s not true. Maybe what these women want is a body they feel comfortable looking at in the mirror?
Carter also seems to suggest men are the big, bad ogres who run a mile if their girlfriends don’t look perfect, but this seems unfair. Many guys are happy with smaller-breasted girls and actually prefer an A cup to a pair of DDs, so can they really be the reason behind every boob job operation? What’s more, guys can complement their wives until the cows come home, but they can’t change the image women see when they look at their reflection.
The article says “a man can never fully fathom the changes that a woman’s body experiences over a lifetime,” however, this comment is perhaps a little flawed. Men might not have two melons on their chest but that doesn’t mean they can’t empathise with their partner. Similarly it seems wrong to say “two women are always going to relate to the ways each other’s bodies chance over time” because everyone is different. It’s not set in stone that you’ll relate to your partner’s body just because you’re of the same sex. What if one of you has a mastectomy?
Women have boob jobs for many different reasons, so it’s very short-sighted to think they only go under the knife to attract a man.
